Single Truths
In today’s Boundless article, Elisabeth Adams tells the truth about her singleness:
I want to be married.
Shouldn’t that have happened by now?
At first I ask, How do I change this? Then, as resignation sets in, I wonder, How do I survive singleness? In particularly painful moments, I want to know more: Why should I be contented? Why should I stay the course? Does God see me? Does He even care?
I think most singles can relate to Elisabeth’s feelings. I recently wrote an article on a similar topic. In it, I considered this question: “Am I valuable to God in my singleness?” The answer yes. Undeniably. I am chosen by God, eternally loved and redeemed for His purposes.
But feelings are another matter. Elisabeth talks about how her mother and grandmother got early starts on motherhood, while Elisabeth’s story will be different. Those are the kinds of realities that can distract and discourage us from living in the moment God has for us today. They can make us wonder if our singleness is a waste. The author reminds us that a useful life — a life that glorifies God — is founded in truth. These truths include:
· I am primarily defined as God’s child (with all the blessings and responsibilities that entails), and not as a single woman.
· The area of romance is not outside the realm of discipleship: God will use it to test me and refine me and bring me joy, just as He does with every other facet of my life.
· Painful singleness can be godly singleness. God does not condemn me when I am upset. Those feelings have to go somewhere, and His ear and heart are the safest place.
· Though I’m experiencing a different kind of pain than married people, we are all in the fellowship of suffering.
· I can model true love while I’m single. Every day I continue to walk with Jesus, He gives me opportunity to exchange the “I-wants” stored up in my heart for the happiness of others. Because He loves me so outrageously, I can make a sacrifice, say “My pleasure,” and find it is the exact truth.
· Waiting won’t stop when I enter a relationship. At each stage of friendship, courtship, and marriage, the future is still God’s business. Mine is to habitually counter my imagination with the truth: Who this person really belongs to, what our true relationship is — today — and what true love will do for him as a result.
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That is only part of the list Elisabeth provides. Truth is so important at any life stage. And, as the author points out, when we’re walking in truth — whether single or married — none of our days is a waste … not one single day. View article…
